Let me tell you a truth that took me years to accept:
Self-love is not selfish.
It’s revolutionary.
In a world that teaches us to earn our worth, hide our emotions, and prioritize everyone else’s needs above our own—choosing to love yourself, as you are, is nothing short of radical.
But let’s be honest: self-love isn’t always bubble baths and affirmations.
Sometimes, it’s messy. It’s painful.
It’s sitting with the parts of yourself you’ve spent years running from and saying,
“Even now, you are worthy of love.”
The Wound Beneath the Smile
For a long time, I was the high achiever, the helper, the one who “had it all together.”
But behind the smile was a quiet ache.
A fear that if I stopped doing, performing, proving…
No one would stay.
That fear kept me hustling for love.
And it wasn’t until I paused and truly looked inward that I realized:
I had abandoned myself.
Choosing Yourself is the Beginning
Self-love is not a one-time declaration—it’s a daily decision.
It’s saying “no” when your body says rest.
It’s walking away from people or patterns that drain your soul.
It’s forgiving yourself, again and again, for being human.
And most of all, it’s meeting your reflection with softness instead of shame.
Because the way you love yourself sets the tone for everything in your life.
What Happens When You Do
When you love yourself, you become magnetic.
Not because of how you look or what you achieve—but because you radiate truth.
You stop settling.
You stop apologizing.
You become a living invitation for others to rise, too.
This is what I witness every day in my coaching program:
Women (and some brave men) shedding decades of self-judgment and finally… breathing. Smiling. Becoming.
And what they discover?
It was never about becoming “better.”
It was about remembering they were always enough.
Let This Be Your Permission Slip
If you’ve been waiting for a sign to choose yourself—this is it.
Not next month. Not after you hit the next milestone.
Now.
Because the most powerful version of you is the one who loves herself first.
And when you do?
You don’t just change your life—you change everything you touch.
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With all my love,
Francesca
P.S. If you’re ready to begin this journey of radical self-love, I’d love to guide you. Click here to learn more about my 3-month coaching experience.